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Release date
February 26, 2013 -
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OverDrive Listen audiobook
- ISBN: 9781622311576
- File size: 254982 KB
- Duration: 08:51:12
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Languages
- English
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Reviews
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A veteran parent educator narrates her finely tuned lesson on helping children grow into responsible adults. Though she sounds like she wants to be engaged and helpful, Hoefle's otherwise pleasant speaking voice sounds somewhat pedantic and lacking in energy. It's not a good vehicle for this program. Using examples of many kinds of parent-child struggles, she shows how careless parenting reinforces kids to rely too much on others, not enough on themselves. By saying and doing less (thus, the duct tape to keep us quiet), parents create a space in which kids figure out their own solutions. The advice, based on familiar psychological principles, is a good reminder that beleaguered parents have thoughtful options for influencing children, rather than defaulting into reactive authoritarian approaches, doing what's expedient, or going passive. T.W. (c) AudioFile 2013, Portland, Maine -
August 27, 2012
Mother of five and professional parenting educator Hoefle shares the secrets to her success in dealing with typical behavioral problems in this hard-to-put-down, Adlerian Psychology-based parenting manual. She claims her method will improve relationships and create independent, thoughtful, resilient, and, of course, well-behaved children. But how to accomplish this feat? Stay calm, say nothing, have "radical faith" in your children. In other words, the titular duct tape is for the parents, not the kids. Calling attention to problematic behavior, Hoefle says, makes a harmless weed grow into something much worse: a long-term attention-getting scheme, or a deep-seated personality trait. As long as it's not a dangerous behavior or situation, Hoefle suggests that parents ignore it. When siblings fight, when a child is caught stealing, or when kids stall and slow down the morning, sit back and see what happens when you say nothing at all. Hoefle's strategy, which is an extreme form of natural consequences parenting, may seem irresponsible to some, but it clearly comes from the heart and is full of helpful tips even for those who find themselves in disagreement with the book's main assertion. And perhaps the proof is in the puddingâHoefle did survive five kids, sanity intact. -
April 29, 2013
Vicki Hoefle delivers a useful guide that looks to nurture strong and meaningful relationships between parents and children via the principles of respect, responsibility, and resilience. At its core, Hoefle’s emphasis is on silencing the parents (via duct tape) to hear and better respond to what is communicated by their children. Hoefle narrates this audio edition with mixed results. Her tone conveys an understanding of the challenges facing parents as well as the importance of doing what is right for children. However, her performance at times falters, with overly long pauses and a lilting delivery. And while this works to make the narration more conversational, it also feels disruptive to the listening experience. A Bibliomotion paperback.
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